Love on its first level, immature love, is involved in relations. We make decisions which are always related to something. In order to ask God and follow His will, we ask for advice. However, only the Creator knows what we really need and what is good for us.
Such dimension of love is associated with emotions, with our own opinion and with what we want together with the behaviour of other people related to our person – gestures or words – yet nobody is perfect. Hence, a lot of mutual hurting. Also tolerance which is understood as acceptance, but often confused with charity, is simply indifference or mute approval for evil. It delivers keen awareness of inappropriate behaviour and helplessness in managing with real life situations. Life becomes a torture with the feeling of misunderstanding of ourselves and others.
The second dimension of love is forgivable love. We are able to look at our life from certain perspective and it makes that we can forgive. We forgive words, actions, intentions and thoughts confiding them to God. This is the decision of both heart and mind which should not be perceived as indulgence or permission for hurting. It happens that we still feel pain and reluctance despite we are able to leave it behind. Keeping our dignity, we can go on. We are getting more mature. Such kind of love gets many aspects of our life right. The Holy Spirit explains the motive of action (ours and the others) compensating the decision of our heart which had been made. God, who is all love, teaches us how to love, rising our love to higher levels, paraphrasing Saint John of the Cross: in the twilight of life, we will be judged on how much we have loved. This is the essence, the gateway to salvation, very often connected with the grace of profound faith. This is the beginning of selfless love.
Another level of love is the phase of unquestioning obedience to God. It is caused by the grace of faith. We give Him everything: our life and ourselves with what is good and bad, what is weak or strong. We follow His path, being not so much self-interested. It requires making hard demands for ourselves and others altogether with understanding and love. Giving up the current way of thinking and behaviour, commitment – is the right way towards self-knowing. (St E. Stein). Day by day God creates us to be Christlike, gives us the power. Faith lets us feel infinite safety, hope orients us towards heaven, love makes we want to draw the others. We all head towards the same direction however, not everybody knows or accepts this truth yet. The believer is getting Christlike, is able to love through mercy.
Absolute love clears itself through suffering and ordering life at deeper levels. The suffering has various sources and it is individual. It is said that, everybody has his own way of repentance. The more we are able to give up our own ego, the more we are submerged in God. God with unusual power draws us towards our spiritual self, showing us the opulence of inner life. It is the level where we love enemies with the love of hope.
The wisdom of Christ love rests on forgiving and eliminating the weaknesses, creating a new man – fleshly, sensitive, following the path of salvation.
The wisdom of believer’s love is staying with God. The desire for salvation. Transition into Christ. The love which is wise and felicitous. Faithful and responsible. Guiding.
Translation mgr Gabriela Kula